It's ok...

It's ok to give up breastfeeding, when you've tried everything you possibly could to make it work.

It's ok to choose not to breastfeed, because it's just something you don't want to do.

It's ok to give your baby formula, when you see your baby is happy and healthy and you feel sane, you know you made the right choice.

It's ok to feel angry, cry, bury your head under the covers when your baby just won't sleep.

It's ok to leave them to cry when you can't cope and then pick them up and cuddle them with all your might because you feel so incredibly guilty.

It's ok to hold your baby as much as you want, you won't spoil them.

It's ok to say to your baby, "Why won't you just sleep!" Because you know you are only saying it out of pure exhaustion and emotion.

It's ok to have moments where you miss your old life, your freedom, because as soon as your baby smiles up at you, you remember it truly is all worth it.

It's ok to tell people you are "fine" when inside you feel shockingly bad.

It's ok to hate the woman at the baby group who says her little one sleeps through the night, secretly you are glad because it means you get extra cuddles.

It's ok not to enjoy motherhood sometimes and to feel frustrated when nothing you do seems right.

It's ok to tell your baby you love them, constantly, they may not understand the words but they will see it in your eyes.

It's ok to stay in for days on end because you can't face seeing other people, let alone the smug mums who seem to have it all figured out.

It's ok to let your baby see you cry. It won't damage them, you are human and some days, you just can't hold it in anymore.

It's ok to not feel that instant rush of love when your baby is born, life isn't always like how we read in books or see on TV.

It's ok to "wash" with baby wipes because you are just too tired and can't be bothered that day.

It's ok to do things your way, because you know your baby like no other.

It's ok to put on baby tv just so you can have a cup of tea and a moment's peace.

It's ok to eat chocolate at 5am because your baby has already been up an hour and you just need some damn sugar.

It's ok to lay your baby next to you in bed because selfishly you just want more cuddles and more sleep.

It's ok not to be ok. It's ok not to always be happy. You love your baby more than life itself and that is all that matters. Xoxo